I understand that getting older is difficult for many and is often full of uncertainty, but I think that the irony is that it is often the rash decisions that are made during "that time" that create the "crisis".
Think about it. The anxiety about being too young to be old and being too old to be young is simply an emotion - it's the decisions made by those who suffer from that age-related anxiety that is usually the culprit of crisis.
For example, (behold the classic stereotype) a 50 something married man buys hot rod. He does this to cling to his youth as he is now suddenly aware of his limited time on Earth. He faces the reality that his life is half over and he decides he is going to make changes to make himself happy in his remaining years. Result? He makes an outrageously expensive impulse buy for completely selfish reasons that sends him (and his spouse) into serious debt.
Perhaps it isn't fair to pick on middle-aged sports car enthusiasts, but the point is that this is clearly a powerful emotion that often results in serious (and sometimes irreversible) consequences. The thought that haunts me is that someday my husband of 20 years is going to come home with a bank-breaking purchase or worse yet, NOT come home because he's decided that he would rather be single and live his life to the fullest.
I can't imagine that going through a life transition of this magnitude would be easy for anyone, but I can't seem to bend my mind around how quickly people will through the baby out with the bath water. No stopping to think, no consideration for counseling, and no discussion with their spouse. They simply uproot their entire life (with little or no regard to the impact it will have on others) all in the name of "I'm just not happy with my life and it's half over now".
The quote above is definitely one of my favorites - I think we all forget how lucky we really are to wake up in the morning and have one more day. It's easy to forget that each breath is not guaranteed and that someone somewhere has it harder than we do. I think we should all strive to keep our lives in constant check to ensure that we are living the life we want - a life we are proud of. That way, when people reach this point in their life, they can embrace it as an opportunity for growth as opposed to an opportunity for change. This would better enable them to avert the fears of imminent death and unaccomplished goals and as a result, lessen the occurrence of panic and irrational decisions.
Is this an over-simplified and idealistic lifestyle? Of course - but I think it's worth aiming for.
K8
